Should You Try to Get Pregnant Again after 45?

This is the question that has been running through my mind for the last year and a half.  Should I try to get pregnant again?   My little girl is now 3 years old and is asking for a little brother or sister.  Having a sibling would give her family when I am gone which will be earlier than most parents.  I am 48 years old.  I would love to have another child.  When I was younger, I always figured I would have 2 or 3 kids (and be married to my best friend.  It doesn’t always work out the way you think.)   It is not as easy to know what to do now as it was when I was 43 and realized that I absolutely needed to do everything possible to have a baby.  As my regular readers know, that was a regret that I wasn’t willing to have.  This time, I am thinking about all of the implications of a pregnancy at age 48.

I have started doing ovulation testing to be sure that I am still ovulating.  So far, so good.   I am taking my prenatal vitamins.  I am exercising and staying in good shape.  I have tons of energy and do more with my 3 year old than most moms half my age.  I am not worried about being able to care for my precious little girl and a new baby.  AJ is so wonderful and smart and helpful that I know she will be great with a newborn.  I will make sure I am in good physical condition so I will have the energy I need.

So what am I waiting for?

AJ and me hiking in Colorado AJ and me hiking in Colorado

I am concerned about the health of a new baby.  We all know that the risks of genetic abnormalities rise with the age of the mother.  That concerns me a great deal.  And it concerns most women thinking about having a baby over 40.   I worry less about health implications for me because I am very healthy and have always been very healthy.  Something could happen, though, and I am all AJ has.  So, that needs to be a consideration as well.

I wonder how we can accomplish our plans with a pregnancy.  We are in the process of getting our current home ready to sell and finalizing plans for our new house in the mountains in Colorado.  This is fulfilling one of my life goals and dreams.  I will be very involved in the process.  How would having a new baby impact this?  I believe we can all do anything we think we can do.  I know I would find a way, but it would be harder than it would with just AJ and me.

I do wonder if I even CAN get pregnant again.  I tried once last year.  Ordered the sperm, had it delivered, checked ovulation, and then didn’t ovulate.  I didn’t communicate well with my physician about what would happen if we couldn’t do the IUI and the sample thawed while we waited.  It was damaged and unusable once I ovulated.  $870 down the drain.  There were other roadblocks through the process and I felt it best to wait and consider the decision again.   I do think about the financial implications with each IUI costing about $1k including the sperm.  That wouldn’t stop me but it is a consideration.

So, here I sit, contemplating trying again.  The days and weeks tick away.  Time I don’t have.  I will make a decision soon.

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